That does make sense. It probably translates into real life, too. People worried about whether they're being unkind are the people who actually care about being kind.
Man...I've been waiting forever for them to update the site...I know that Marzipan's VA had another (?!) child so that's been the main thing holding them up. I hope that it doesn't mean that they're done for good.
Since I'm using no items at all (evar) I'm probably gonna grind everyone up to 70 and see how that works out. If I could heal inbetween, that'd be different. But I wanna restrict myself as much as I can.