BUT IN ANY CASE...! Regarding female characters, ikr? That's basically how you're supposed to write them! (Like actual people, I mean.) I feel like it's all part of the gender roles folks grew up with. Like ... you want to do justice to women because of the feminist movement, so you get stuck on the "female" part of your character while trying to figure out how to translate that into what you think would do an entire gender justice. Alternatively, some folks get stuck on what they were taught earlier about women (pink, dresses, girly stuff, etc.) that they think that writing a good character is just a matter of subverting those particular tropes. But it's like ... writing a good female character is just writing a good character. You're just slapping certain pronouns onto it.
(Granted, sure, there are obviously some things that are different between men and women, but for the most part, those are usually irrelevant to a person's story, yanno?)
In short, it is totally not just you. D: I mean, I can kinda get the general idea behind why people feel the need to discuss writing developed emphasis-on-the-female characters; I'm just confused about why it's 2017 and there are still people who haven't realized that you can, you know, just write developed characters who happen to be female.
Also! Re, that first line: GREAT MINDS. 8D