As for the depression and anxiety you're dealing with... It's not an afterthought to me, I just don't know what advice to give you for a lot of it. I was thinking earlier today, though, one thing, is that I think it's important to focus on what you are doing. You're working, you're talking to...
You run into this kind of problem when you're talking about topics that deal with subjective experience... But some topics deal with subjective definitions: gender, psychology, linguistics. The right loves to talk about facts over feelings, but what I'm seeing is that they're the ones who think...
As for the trans community, I mean, the debate is helpful. What you have is people valuing two different aspects of the experience: personal identity, and how you fulfill a social role. What it really is is a difference in what they value.
As for people being uncomfortable talking about their opinions in public, yeah, that's just part of being human. Most people have areas of their lives where they're not in the general consesus, and it causes trouble for them.
Oh, and I forgot to say, you can't control the actions of every single individual. You act as if throwing a tantrum is strictly a Left wing thing, when it definitely isn't. There's plenty of material on Right wingers having public freak outs, harrassing others, and/or destroying public property.
I think you underestimate how long it'll take to repair the damage, if it's possible at all. I think the main reason Democracies tend to only last about 200 years is more and more rules get bent over time, until the rules are basically useless.
It's an issue of degree. As for Youtube, if they banned any of their big money makers, it was only under pressure. Left wingers get banned all the time for using terms in the context of quoting and discussing.
This is a more recent trend. It started with when... Who was it? Oh, yes, Keurig pulled sponsership from Fox News after something someone there said. This absolutely blew up on Twitter and made them a bunch of money.
Well, the thing about incels is that they're talking about how women should be subservient to men and are all empty and shallow and only good for sex. Also how fatalistic they are. That's why they get more attention than MGtOW (which, they're not popular on the Left, but they're generally seen...
Oh, that is definitely not true. Publication on a notable platform is very difficult, and peer-reviewed journals are even harder. You might be able to get published on a smaller site, but who's gonna see it?
I mean, I've already considered. I've told you that I was raised in a more Conservative environment and used to think that way. When I learning more about things like economics, befriending people differen't from me, my views changed.
Oh, I'm actually pretty radical. I know one, maybe two other people who are as radical as me, and... I'm not even really sure that they are; it might just be that they wear it more than I do. Most people I talk to are more conservative than me.
In fact... Lindsay Ellis had a lot to say on how the changes to Belle's character in the live action Beauty and the Beast did nothing for the character and went nowhere; they were there just to appear "woke" and it was really lame and obvious.