Pesky Persian
Caffeine Queen
So even if he's concluded that he'll do everything in his power to make it better for her, it's still okay for her to be selfish? Did you know that in Norway for example that they give a woman 2 years leave for her job and she comes back in the same exact position without her losing any pay or any perks if she has a child? (Norway's population is declining which may be a big part of this) So her job status is completely protected. Now say that she actually respects her husband and doesn't think he's an ******* because "lolomg he doesn't hav 2 giv berth he duznt undurstnd" (as if that's his fault and he chose to be a male) Now you bring up the health issues. Say the woman has a faulty heart. If she doesn't want to risk it..chances are any logical husband will agree. Say she gets to labor and the doctor says it's her or the baby...well that's her choice but the doctor also asks him for a reason. Chances are, if the husband has a choice between a child and his wife...he's going to choose his wife. So again, my point is that in a perfect situation where it's a husband and wife, no sicknesses, no outside forces involved. Just purely a relationship where a baby will be born happy and healthy, he should not be discarded as a moron just because the wife wants to drink and smoke and be selfish. It's really that simple. A relationship is 50/50 and this is a big decision. By the way, if the wife goes behind the husband's back and gets an abortion, he can sue. Just saying. So the law agrees with me as well.
Way to completely miss the point GhostAnime was trying to convey. He never said that men should be "discarded as morons," as you so quaintly put it. All he said was that it's something that needs to be discussed and, in my opinion, that's exactly right. In your scenario of a husband and wife, it's more than likely been discussed or will be discussed when the woman becomes pregnant. What's wrong with being responsible and discussing with your partner what to do if something unexpected arises? And where did drinking and smoking come into play? Seriously, did I miss a few posts or are you pulling this out of nowhere? I'm really confused. It's highly unlikely in a married situation that a woman is just going to get an abortion without the knowledge of her husband. I think the questions presented in the OP are something that is more likely to occur in non-committed/loosely committed relationships and relationships between young adults who are still trying to get on their feet in life. Serious, committed longtime partners have probably already discussed these things or would gladly welcome a child into their life.
And what does she have to go through? Doting from her family and friends? Oh not that! Oh man, not cramps! (Periods are the same way.) Morning sickness? That doesn't last the entire term.
Yes, because every pregnancy comes with doting family members. /sarcasm
Sure, family members and friends are likely to be excited and, if the family can afford it, baby showers are nice. However, "doting" seems to be exaggerating, especially when it comes to individualistic cultures. Also, period cramps can be debilitating if they're severe enough. And not all women get period cramps so they most likely wouldn't be accustomed to that. Morning sickness generally only lasts a while, yes, but sensitivity to certain smells that can trigger vomiting is common even past the first trimester. How about swollen feet? How about not getting any sleep because the baby is kicking you in the ribs? How about amniocentesis tests? Because everyone loves having a long needle stuck in their belly. Postpartum depression. And of course, birth, which we'll get to below...
(By the way, I'm not saying pregnancy is horrible. I think it's fascinating and amazing. However, it's not all rainbows and butterflies, and not every woman enjoys being pregnant.)
Also: not only are there so many drugs the woman goes on during labor, there are C-sections, and also the fact that even though a *****y woman will hold this against her husband, the pain gets forgotten as soon as she sees the baby's face (according to many accounts.) So all the "agony" she is going through is really really irrelevant.
No every woman chooses to use drugs. There is still debate about whether or not the use of certain drugs during labor can have a negative affect on the child. Also, drugs can only be used before a certain point. If she goes into labor unexpectedly or can't get to the hospital in time, drugs are not an option. And really, I find it kind of amusing that you were talking about someone being sexist before but then go on to post about how pregnancy is "Lol no big deal, suck it up." Priceless.