So, what you're saying is that he's never around. I just can't get long distance relationships at that age: What's the appeal? Where is it going that is so important that is has to exist?She's my best friend, but I'm crazy for her, and I see lots of signs and hints that she feels the same way, except for the part that she has a boyfriend. This boyfriend of hers....ugh, I can't stand him. Not for the fact that he's her boyfriend, but for how he treats her. He lives in a complete other state. Not on the other side of Boston, not an hour drive to another town, but another state. He has so many bull crap excuses for why he can't talk to her more than once a freakin' month.
This is the one I specifically wanted to quote. Just tell her to leave him: It should be that simple. If he's being that much of a ****, she shouldn't have to stand for it one bit. And give that he lives in a completely different state, there's no reason he should have to get uppity about it; I mean he probably doesn't see her half the time anyway. I wouldn't specifically pursue it right off the bat given that it'll make you look like you wanted to break them up EXCLUSIVELY so you can get with her, but i wouldn't take too long; lest she ends up with another complete idiot.New school, new friends, and the lamest thing of all "my cell phone's busted". I don't believe him for a second. Then.....he just asks her for sex, and she told me that if she says no, he'll just leave her.
Why do I get the feeling I know this kid? And if it's a phone, I would kind of believe that one. Kids break their cell phones all the time here.She came to me on how to say no to him. She came to me with the whole situation as she feels I'm the only person she can tell and I'm the only person that can help. I know I can and I think I am.
I told her to say no because she's too young (we're 14) and the obvious things as to not especially because she doesn't want to. I also told her that it's all bull as to why he can't talk to her. New school has nothing to do with it, new friends, sure he may hang out more but it makes no sense as to why he can't use a friends laptop and talk to her for a while. The phone part...not believing it for a second.
The next time he even attempt to talk to her, tell her to say, "We're through". That simple. And if he begins to object, just hang up on him. He is in fact a complete douche. If he was amazing, it's not the case anymore.She wants to know what to do...I told her that the best option is to honestly get rid of him. I also told her that she can just talk to him about it rather then just bluntly dumping him. She asked me while almost crying "how?" because she can never get to talk to him.
I feel as if the relationship of the two is in my hands. He treats such an amazing girl like crap. She said she sometimes cries herself to sleep. She watched a romance movie and she said she realizes how much she cares for him and how he doesn't feel the same way anymore.
She said everything that he used to do, and everything that he was, but I've thoroughly explained everything to her and that its going no where and such. I know how she feels and its gonna be hard, but I feel as if she needs to brake up with him.
But I don't know if this is just my feelings for her getting in the way of me being a good friend to her....
Our relationship together, I know where that's going, so I'm not here for girl advise. I want to know if I'm doing the right thing and if my feelings are getting in the way of me being a good friend or not. I also want to know if my advise is even good in the first place as well.
You're being a good friend. Don't tell yourself otherwise. These type of relationships are the scummiest things I know of, and they just shouldn't exist. Anything you can do to help reverse the situation is a good idea.