You remember that old saying: "If you ever want to make friends or have respect, you should always be yourself". Apparently, it seems that the old saying doesn't usually work in the internet. Whenever a person tries to be himself, as in explaining his own thoughts about anything, there's a chance that some users will call him/her an idiot for having those thoughts because they are either wrong or just hate any opinion but their own. This force the said person to change his opinions in order to fit in with the crowd. I used to be one when I first joined Serebii Forums, I was trying to be myself by explaining my own thoughts about any subject and end up being called an idiot or a troll because my opinions were wrong. The smart Serebii users try to explain to me how I'm wrong, but I simply ignored them all for the sake of me thinking I'm always right. They soon hate me as well. So right now, I'm trying to change so I can be accepted by those who hate me here. But then I think about the old saying. If I ever change, then I would be breaking that old saying. So tell me, is changing yourself really necessary so you be respected by others or is that against making friends/getting respect by being yourself? My apology if this is in the wrong section; you can move it to another section that's best suited.
In common society, it's not so much changing yourself as wearing the right mask.
Humans are a social bunch, and have built civilization with society in mind. Granted it's always simpler and healthier to be yourself, but everyone has to play the politics game sooner or later. Some play it because they have to, some play it to win at life, but you're better off if you play it well, and that means putting up the best image for the situation you're in. Like any other, politics is a game best played strategically.
Of course, there's that, and then there's real friends. One of the key things that sets real friends apart is how a true, real friend will accept you as you are. Anyone who can't truly accept you isn't truly your friend, but a friend of the image you're putting up.
This counts in real life and the internet, but the internet lacks a few things that real life has, such as:
-Threat of retaliation.
A lot of stupid stuff done on the internet is done because the person doing it doesn't have to worry about getting socked in the face for it. Sure there are hackers out there, but -real- hackers are pretty rare.
-Permanent identity.
Unlike real life, you can hide your info online, or even put in bogus info. A random alias can be used as a disposable mask, and free proxy sites make this even easier.
These things together make it far easier to be a jerk online than face to face, and so, there are crowds of people who get their fun by being jerks online.
When it comes to opinions, I'd say the only thing you'd need to truly change for is the facts themselves. In short, do the research before posting your opinion. Look at it from a neutral point of view and see if you're actually right or not. That way if someone actually throws a valid attack at your opinion, you already have a mass of good info to use in your favor, plus being an actual expert (or as close as you can get) on the subject is always a plus.
And don't be afraid to admit you've lost a debate. If you're proven wrong, it's time to accept the other's argument as the truth. Pushing an argument you've already lost just makes you look bad.
If someone else posts an opinion or 'fact' you think is stupid, then the best way sometimes is to not even argue. Be their curious student, and try to learn as much as possible. Sometimes the easiest way to reveal someone's stupidity is to just query their non-existent support. Read Socrates' dialogues and you'll know exactly what I mean.
If someone's just being an idiot, or just insults you without saying anything useful, then it's just dots on a screen. Feel free to ignore it.