I don't really know to be honest. Looking back, you did just say it was a bad idea. I think I was just directing my general ire with other comments, made by other posters toward you. You got caught in cross-hairs. Oops.
I will address some of those other posts now.
Yes. I am sorry to say but it is your fault. You choose to stay married to an abusive bastage. You choose following your heart(not a bad thing for the most part), You choose to break your vow to the abusive scumbag.. Who when he finds out will have yet another excuse to beat you to death. There is no good reason to cheat.
You break up or divorce BEFORE moving on. More important, if you have the moral high ground, you are entitled to more in a divorce! I'm a husband, I know full well how that works!
It's my fault for choosing to stay with someone abusive? What if I'm pretty low on the socio-economic ladder dude? Divorces cost money. Do you think all women that choose to stay with their abusive husbands are really just a bunch of dumb
bitches, and if they're too stupid to get out, they deserve what's coming to them? Sometimes a woman has nowhere else to go, especially if there is kids involved. What's better, staying with your abusive husband, or being a single mom out on the streets? Personally, I'll take a few more beatings before I'd allow my own children to starve.
So then, who's fault is it when you get beat again? The mans? Causation is not justification.
I think it's always your fault for beating another human being, and that there is no excuse to ever beat anyone, but that's because I'm not a terrible person. Sorry we don't see eye to eye on this one, bro.
To recap, I believe that cheating is wrong,
most of the time. In rare and special cases, such as a woman that's being abused, I believe that the act is excusable and that it is not fair to make a black and white moralistic judgement against a person in such a situation. Yes, it is still a "bad idea" but that's not really what's at the heart of this discussion. We are debating about whether cheating is
wrong. Something being a bad idea is a far cry from it being a moral affront.