Pesky Persian
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I've said no. But then, I am not a hardcore ***** so yeah. :]
If you go out and have sex with someone who isn't your partner, that IS your fault. YOU made the decision.
I've said no. But then, I am not a hardcore ***** so yeah. :]
If you go out and have sex with someone who isn't your partner, that IS your fault. YOU made the decision.
I agree that it IS my fault. I'm not trying to get a free pass here. Maybe I'm speaking from the other way around.
It's the same the other way around. If your partner cheats on you, it's still his fault.
Yes, but I have every right to wonder what did I do wrong as well. Which people get butthurt over that. Everyone has different ways with handling cheating.
I think everyone who has been cheated on wonders if they did something wrong. Ultimately, though, the blame liez with the person who made the decision. Wondering if you could have prevented it is normal. Blaming yourself is unhealthy but common.
So what is so offending about blaming yourself for part of what your partner did again if it's common?
So what is so offending about blaming yourself for part of what your partner did again if it's common?
It's not offensive so much as it's unhealthy, and often a sign of serious problems. To get off topic for a moment, rape victims are prone to blaming themselves, and, hell, having others blame them for "asking for it," among other things. If we're talking the half of the couple that was cheated on, I feel like the values of this society would probably make someone wonder if they didn't satisfy their partner, particularly if it's a man who cheated on a woman.
That doesn't make it their fault, though. Actions have consequences; even if it can be said that the relationship was rocky, you reap what you sow. In the case of abusive relationships... well, a woman cheating on her abusive husband is probably more of a symptom than the problem itself, I'd say.
If you were unhappy with the way they were treating you, then you should've voiced your concerns and acted accordingly. Fix it if it's fixable and end it if it's not. I don't get how there can be any grey area there.
There's a difference between answering why and saying it's justifiable.And even though cheating is bad, there has to be a side to why they are cheating
I said it already but I'll say it again, it all comes down to communication. I don't care if your partner is ignoring you, not giving you sex, satisfying your emotional needs. There is never an excuse for cheating and if you do cheat, you are deserve ALL the blame. What drove you to cheat is irrelevant in my opinion, the fact of the matter is you promised yourself to someone and you broke that promise. If you were unhappy with the way they were treating you, then you should've voiced your concerns and acted accordingly. Fix it if it's fixable and end it if it's not. I don't get how there can be any grey area there.
If there are children involved I can somewhat see an issue but in my own personal experience I've seen more kids messed up from living in a household where they could tell their parents didn't like each other than those whose parents were split up.
2) One has to also question the morals of the single guy who permits the act as well. Is he not wrong?
You mean the person that is being cheated with? How can they knowingly have some sort of an affair with someone that is in a relationship?
To me it is like the saying goes, all is fair in love and war. If you have no connection what so ever to the woman's partner (ie. you arent friends, business associates...basically you need to have never met) than to me you are not at fault and should feel no guilt
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