Yes I just came here to whine and pontificate. It's a modern implementation of a natural reaction to what I perceived as a threat to my social status, so it's okay.
You're funny.
Yes I just came here to whine and pontificate. It's a modern implementation of a natural reaction to what I perceived as a threat to my social status, so it's okay.
As an unlaid male undergrad studying evolution and psychology, it is very difficult for me to find this funny or clever (but not impossible). Another name for the field: anthropological psychology. The study of the human species and its development throughout its historic lifespan. Our bodies have evolved, I'm sure we can all agree. I sincerely do not understand the immediate ridicule that occurs when it is further posed that our brains are parts of our bodies and therefore have also evolved. If it were limited to opposition to the bad science (of which there is, in the jargon, a "crapton," and to a good example of which we are currently being treated) that would be one thing, but people just seem to have this automatic aversive reaction to the idea of the human brain with an evolutionary past. Of course that is not reducible to just genes, or just environments, or even just cultures, but our brains were and are most certainly built by, affected by, and contributors to all of those forces.
Yes I just came here to whine and pontificate. It's a modern implementation of a natural reaction to what I perceived as a threat to my social status, so it's okay.
You don't know divorce to well if this is your argument. My sister in law had no job, 3 kids, and had enough government "hand outs" to survive until she got a job and child support kicked in. The street is better than staying. I know I lived there for a while along time ago.It's my fault for choosing to stay with someone abusive? What if I'm pretty low on the socio-economic ladder dude? Divorces cost money. Do you think all women that choose to stay with their abusive husbands are really just a bunch of dumb bitches, and if they're too stupid to get out, they deserve what's coming to them? Sometimes a woman has nowhere else to go, especially if there is kids involved. What's better, staying with your abusive husband, or being a single mom out on the streets? Personally, I'll take a few more beatings before I'd allow my own children to starve.
I accept your your believe, even though I don't agree with you completely.To recap, I believe that cheating is wrong, most of the time. In rare and special cases, such as a woman that's being abused, I believe that the act is excusable and that it is not fair to make a black and white moralistic judgement against a person in such a situation. Yes, it is still a "bad idea" but that's not really what's at the heart of this discussion. We are debating about whether cheating is wrong. Something being a bad idea is a far cry from it being a moral affront.
You don't know divorce to well if this is your argument. My sister in law had no job, 3 kids, and had enough government "hand outs" to survive until she got a job and child support kicked in. The street is better than staying. I know I lived there for a while along time ago.
Act like it.
To wikipedia!
Also, you may want to look into justifiable homicide.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Justifiable_homicide
So I'll just reiterate this one more time. You, I, and we as a society can justify the taking of another persons life, but yet you cannot in any way be assed to justify the act of cheating on someone, even in the event of consistent physical and or mental abuse? That's mega screwed up man.
That's an overdose of testosterone. Overdoses of anything have unpredictable effects. He's arguing that natural levels of testosterone control human decision-making enough to override basic survival instinct.
The government can't give you a "handout" if there's no place that you're living in to send a check. Or have you seen a person living under a bench lately waving around his EBT card? Plus, anecdotal evidence sucks.
Right no family anywhere will take you in till you get on your feet? If that's the case maybe he problem isn't the other person after all! If you're divorcing there is almost always someone you can turn to for some help. I like how real life is BS evidence.The government can't give you a "handout" if there's no place that you're living in to send a check. Or have you seen a person living under a bench lately waving around his EBT card? Plus, anecdotal evidence sucks.
In our society cheating is VERY wrong. That is intentionally going behind your partner's back and engaging in some sort of activty with somebody else. I believe, however, a polygamous encounter is okay if you, your partner, and the third person are all cool wit it. I am not talking about a guy with two girlfriends. I'm talking about if a couple want to have a threesome. As long as everybody's open It's okay.
My personal opinion on cheating is this: it's wrong no matter what the situation. I don't care if you got drunk. If you can't control your genitalia when you are inebriated then you might want to rethink drinking in the first place. To me that's the sign of someone who can't handle their alcohol. I don't care if you had a really bad fight. Grow up. Adults fight all the time, sleeping with someone else isn't going to make the fight go away or make you feel any better about the situation once it's all said and done.
The problem I notice a lot with people who cheat or have cheated is their is a real lack of communication with their significant other and by the time they do end up cheating, they are already emotionally cut off from the other person. They never attempted to talk about whatever was going wrong in the relationship that led them to cheat. If you aren't mature enough to have an adult conversation with your SO about your relationship then maybe you shouldn't be in one. I don't think it's possible to truly love someone and cheat on them. That might be a really harsh thing to say but it's how I feel. I believe that when you truly do love someone, even the thought of doing something that might hurt them emotionally and/or physically makes you ill. For you to actually go out and do it tells me that either the love is gone or it was never there.
People also need to be more honest about what they want. Some people aren't relationship people but don't want to admit it less it make them seem like a ****/manhoe. There is nothing wrong if you are a promiscuous person. You are human with human desires, but when you tell someone that they are the only person you want to be with or will be with, then you have to live up to that. If you find that you can't, then end it and save everyone the headache and time.
I believe there was a debate on this before, but it's gone so I decided to make a fresh new one.
I never really gave much thought on this topic before I got into a very loving relationship about a year ago. And thinking about the idea of cheating disgusts me and confuses me to no end.
The question is
WHY do people cheat when they're committed to loving that one special person they're with?
Why do so many people think cheating is acceptable nowadays?
I know many people aren't truly in love with their partner which I could probably understand why cheating would happen. But when you are TRULY in love with somebody, yet still manage to cheat and sleep with other men or woman? What is going through your head?
I think my view is already clear but I can't say enough about how wrong I feel cheating is.
My views on love and sex have became so strict ever since I've been with my guy. I would never even think of being with another man. Even if there's a bunch of guys who are considered attractive wanting to be with me, I'd never cause my boyfriend pain. Besides, being with this guy, I just don't find anybody else attractive. I just don't see it.
Nowadays it seems like everyone will just get with any random person they find hot. And it just doesn't seem right at all.
How can you possibly not think of the pain you're causing your partner when you cheat? I believe if you're going to want to sleep with every hot person you meet, then you should break off your relationship, because cheating isn't worth the pain.
To end my post, I'll ask the main question.
What are you views on cheating?
I'd say what makes cheating bad is less about love and more about being in a committed relationship. Being in that kind of relationship means you're committed to being with that one person, after all. Betraying that trust is an awful thing to do, whether or not you love that person (though it becomes far more personal if you do).Though, don't mistake my reason for an excuse. I think that cheating is a horrible, selfish, greedy thing to do to someone whom you truly love. Of course that does not apply across the board to people whom are not in love, however it is still a bit of a jerk move.
I'd say what makes cheating bad is less about love and more about being in a committed relationship. Being in that kind of relationship means you're committed to being with that one person, after all. Betraying that trust is an awful thing to do, whether or not you love that person (though it becomes far more personal if you do).
After all, marriages weren't always about being with the person you loved (though one often learned to love one's spouse). But the fact of the matter is that if you're in a committed relationship with a person, turning around and cheating is wrong.
~Psychic