But I did not IN ANY WAY suggest that rapists were like the victims of car accidents. I said -- or meant to say -- that teaching a woman ~*how not to get raped*~ is about as condescending as telling them to watch out for that car. Mostly because we are taught to be vigilant from a young age. Never mind the fact that we should be trying to teach potential rapists not to commit rape, as opposed to teaching potential victims not to let themselves get raped -- because we have been over that time and time again and I think we've concluded that that's a good idea.
Do you actually think that teaching rapists not to rape is going to be more effective than teaching women (and men, ofc) how to become less of a target?
Let's get away from this self-righteous crap about how life
should be and get come to the realization that we don't live in that world. Would it be better to remove rapists from society? Yes. Is it a realistic goal? NO. The best preventative measure that can be taken is individualistic modesty, caution, and wariness.
Back to my much-disputed car analogy, most people already know not to rape, just like most people already know that you have to drive carefully at night, but that won't stop the few moral deviants and lazy drivers from raping someone/hitting a child, respectively. Unfortunately, one of the best things we can do is hope for the best and remain vigilant.
That's not what I was saying. I was saying that it's unfair that you paint the two in the same light, simply because you're saying people make themselves into targets which isn't the case.
No, that's not what I was saying at all. Please don't strawman me, I take caution not to do it to others.
The fact of the matter is when you start piling reasons onto people (whether they be in a car accident or the subject of harassment) that gives a vibe that starts to rationalize or explain the offender's behaviour, you're switching the scenario so that it looks like its their fault. I'm not saying you don't think they should be held accountable, what I'm saying is that you're starting to diminish the experiences and you're starting to excuse behaviour, and that's not ok.
No, it doesn't, it explains that the offender has a rationale, personally at least. There's a difference. You have to know what the problem is so you can solve it. Just like it doesn't diminish the experience when you warn someone not to run onto the road, it also doesn't take away from the experience of someone who is a potential victim for harassment.
Your case for "solving the issues" is simply trying to do preventative measures on victims when you should be focusing on ways to stop harassment in general. People can only try to prevent themselves for so long, it's about nipping the problem at the source.
Victims have a role to play, as they're half the equation. It doesn't make them accountable, but it makes them safer. If they choose not to, it doesn't make it any more their fault than the other way around. If you want to offer a better way to solve the issue than me, so be it. I am getting really tired of "feminists" who want to complain about the issues but always, consistently, fail when asked how to solve them.