Man: "Wow girl, you're looking good today. Want to get some coffee?" = RUDE
Woman: "Wow dude, you're looking good today. Want to get some coffee?" = Thoughtful, kind, amiable
Nope! Not what I said at all.
Telling some attractive girl at the bar "Hey, I think you're cute, wanna get coffee?" = OK (assuming she was sending receptive signals)
Telling a some one who just finished giving a presentation "Hey, I think you're cute, wanna get coffee?" = Rude
Do you see the difference between the two scenarios?
Also, Pro-Tip, generally speaking, it's rude to go up to a woman you don't know and call her "girl".
And now you know what I mean better than I do.
Never said I knew what you meant. I don't know what's going on inside your head. I'm saying that what ever you think you're saying, what your words and actions are expressing are something completely different.
Looks are compliment worthy. Intelligence is compliment worthy. Specific actions are compliment worthy. Complimenting anyone on their looks doesn't mean you think they're a daft idiot who never does anything right.
If you are complimenting someone on their looks when they just gave a presentation, what you're saying is "The most important part of this presentation to me was how you looked." or, in other words "The presentation you just gave wasn't as worthy of praise as how you look."
Did you mean it? I don't know. I'm not psychic. But that's the message you're sending across.
A systemic issue with all of society... and you give me a female Youtuber who has issues using the website but this is somehow more of a problem because she's a female, and a link to a Huff Post video discussing why there aren't as many females as males in science.
Honestly, I'm just looking for something so simple anyone can understand it. Considering how much trouble you have comprehending the sentences I'm writing, I'm guessing that's my best shot.
All people are unique individuals. Even if we accepted that people are experts on what they personally experience, each individual would only be an expert on the discrimination they themselves face. A woman would be unable to verify whether all women experience discrimination in the same way because it would be impossible for her to reliably go inside the heads of other women.
What you're saying is true to a certain extent. The problem is that you are assuming that women are facing problems that are all very different from one another. The thing is that, while true, every situation is "unique" in the most literal interpretation of the phrase, the kinds of harassment each woman faces individually, when taken as a whole is very similar. However, us men don't have to face anything similar to the kind of harassment women receive. Going back to the catcalling topic, most if not every woman knows what it's like to be catcalled on a consistent basis. A man might have the experience of being catcalled maybe once, or twice, but no where near the same extent as women.
A man who gets shouted at in the street once in a blue moon might feel flattered.
a woman who gets shouted at in the street every day feels harassed.