1,138 benefits are quite a few more then in Holland, though I did mention tax benefits and I mentioned that I forgot the differences between your medical insurance and ours. Though when you can get them through a different piece of paper for the same situation, like a civil partnership I do not see the problem (neither do I see the problem as not to just give them the same piece of paper.
Except you can't. Civil partnerships do not exist in a lot of states, and several states have provisions in their constitution specifically barring them. In the states that do have civil partnerships, they do not grant the same rights and protections that marriage does. I'm sure we would all love to adhere to the idea that a rose by any other name smells just as sweet, but that's only if you live in a world of theoretical logic, could be's, and should have's. This is the real world though.
Then it is a piece of paper with way more benefits then necessarily, I mean I do not see why you have to be married to get days off for the birth of a child, if it is your child you should be allowed to be there, married or not.
Irrelevant. What matters is that this piece of paper has them, they aren't going away, and if they aren't they should be given to everyone otherwise its discrimination.
Banning something specifically because of a visual difference is legal discrimination. If they had a sound reason to ban it, for example an (islamic) country bans the burqa because a lot of crime is being committed by people wearing a burqa. Those people wear a burqa because it protects there identity and once they have committed the crime they can blend in perfectly to get away. If such a situation was forming a real threat then the reason that wearing it is tradition or the reason that your religion says you must does not trump saftey. Traditional reasons do not trump pragmatic reasons.
*Raises eyebrow* Not only are you missing the point, you're defending yourself by drawing a false extreme parallel with the burqa. Not to mention using conjecture of "if they had sound reason to ban it" when I had already laid out the logical framework. But okay, I'll revise for the sake of discussion and make a more applicable analogy. Let's say the government of India bans all people that eat beef from wearing traditional Hindu garb. If the government of India claims to be secular, they cannot ban people that eat beef from wearing Hindu garb, as its a specific law enacted by a government fueled by religious motives. "You can't wear this because you aren't Hindu." Traditional Hindu garb, is well, a Hindu thing, no? The point is, just because its a particular religions tradition or "thang" if you will, it doesn't give them the right to legally bar others from taking part in it. Otherwise it would be against the law for atheists to celebrate Christmas. Gay people aren't demanding for the government to force churches to formally wed them, we're just asking for the title. Why does the title matter so much? You should know already by what I've already explained.
Also traditionally marriage is between a man and a woman and in america, it is a christian thing. In america you can still legally be married by a priest whereas, for example, here in Holland you can only get married in your religious way after you have legally been married. A marriage between two homosexuals is not the same as the true traditional marriage, the one Christians are trying to protect. Why would the marriage gays have in mind trump the long christian tradition? Governmental decisions should not be made on tradition, and if you did the gays would never win the fight.
So, you defend tradition as an excuse to deny the title of marriage to homosexuals, and yet you say tradition isn't a reason to place any value on marriage in the first place? It doesn't matter whether marriage in America is a Christian thing or not, which it isn't considering Muslims, atheists, Jews, Hindus, etc can all still get married. The reason it doesn't matter is because if it was a "Christian thing" the government shouldn't have gotten itself involved in the business of marriage in the first place. However, it has. If government is to remain secular, there's two options. A) The government removes itself from the institution of marriage completely or B) They give the rights and benefits associated with it to everyone.
Either your creating false dilemmas here, or you just genuinely and seriously misunderstand the intentions of the gay rights movement in the U.S. Furthermore, I don't even accept your premise that Christians are attempting to "protect" marriage. You and I both know that if the government were to recognize marriages between homosexual couples, the religious community wouldn't. It's not about protecting marriage, please. That's a smokescreen. The reality is they fight to keep marriage from homosexuals because their religion says they are sinful. Maybe you would have a case if it were only marriage and marriage alone that homosexuals ever fought or were to fight for, but the gay rights movement dates much further back than fighting for marriage. Who were the very same people fighting homosexuals tooth and nail back then as they are now? You guessed it. The religious Christian right. Why do you think civil unions don't give homosexuals the same rights in the U.S.? Why do you think some states ban even the possibility of civil unions in their statutes? Because protecting marriage doesn't have jack to do with it. It has everything to do with gay people are icky and my religion say they are sinful. To assume such noble intentions given the pattern of history is a bit naive. Or I'm a misanthropic
fuck. Good possibility of the latter actually.
Further more, you can't deny marriage because it is a "Christian thing" when Christians are not even entirely united on the issue.
*raises eyebrow* Okay, you're definitely being overly technical and splitting hairs at this point. Either your willfully missing the point, or you truly can't read in between the lines to sift out what message is being conveyed. :/
Indeed value is objective, and when a price is asked that you don't want to pay because you don't value it as much as someone else that is your choice. But what if you do value an item as much as the store owner is asking for it, you might even value it more. If you had the money to pay it you would pay it immidiatly, but sadley you don't. Does that mean you are still allowed to have it? No. Just because you value something does not grant you the right to have it. The earlier mentioned Egyptian artifacts are valued way more by Egypt then all the countries who actually have them, yet we do not give them back. Wanting alone doesn't give the you the right of having.
*sigh* We don't give them back because their value is obviously greater to us than what they are offering in return. We don't refuse to give them back just because they're Egyptians and they aren't entitled or meant to have them because our religion says so.
And you ask what I value? The relationship. Marriage is an institution and a legal document giving you financial benefits but it does not provide any extra value to a relationship. A good relationship gains value every year it exists not just every year of which you are married. That's something you seem to have forgotten or even deny. You do not seem to value a relationship between people unless they are married, why is that?
It is not about the fact you are married, it's about the care and love you provide your partner. A government can provide a relationship with the same financial benefits that marriage provides but it can never provide social acceptance, the people who do not want gays to marry will still not accept a marriage between two gay people as a real marriage.
Okay, you need to make up your mind though here. Is marriage a traditional "Christian thing" or is it a piece of paper that just gives you financial benefits? You're making me come to one of two conclusions here. Either you're using the word marriage for both definitions for simplification of discussion purposes, or your massively contradicting yourself. Hoping its the former. I believe I've already gone over why marriage has value, and I believe I've already explained that crusading for social acceptance is not mine or anyones intention.
Ofcourse someones relationship whether they aren't married matters just as much someones married relationship. That isn't what I'm saying. I'm saying for the millions of people out there that think marriage would strengthen, give more meaning, or value to their already loving relationship, that's their own perogative. Live and let live. It's the whole pursuit of happiness thing man. I don't think climbing mount of Everest will give me any spiritual awakening nor do I think it will make me happier, because in my eyes, it's just a big ****ing mountain. And yet strangely, I don't try to keep people from climbing big ****ing mountains. Lol. It's because I know I'm my own person and they are likewise. What will make me happy might not make him or her happy.
Oh come on, the human right of freedom comes with limitations. It's stupid to claim everything you can't do as "infringing the right of freedom".
We do not allow brothers and sisters to marry. It's a limitation put on the same institute. Of course almost all brothers and sisters do not want to get married, it's a repulsive idea to breed with your own family but none the less we deny the possibility.
The only non-objective benefits which a gay relationship is denied by a government which does not allow you to marry are financial benefits. Financial Benefits are for specific people anyway, you do not have a right to benefits, it's a gift. For example, a government which does not give benefits to the handicapped is not denying them anything. A result of this treatment it may very well be then handicapped people cannot perform equally but they are not infringed on their right of freedom. Being denied the same benefits as someone with the same handicap just because you have green eyes is discrimination. Being denied benefits for people with one leg because you feel that having one arm is pretty much the same is not discrimination.
And even if you feel that the financial benefits should be given, they are denied the relationship between 2 people of the same gender, it is not technically denied to a specific group of people for being different.
Not allowing gays to marry is stupid, it is not infringing human rights.
Oh don't patronize now. Clearly I know you don't have the freedom to do whatever you wish, and I believe I plainly laid out my reasoning, but you seem to have ignored it and simply reasserted "financial reasons." In addition, incest is a pretty poor example though, because while theoretically its possible to have a loving, consensual incestual couple that won't ever reproduce, that's not what legalization of it would foster. It's illegal because of the genetic diseases you can pass down onto offspring, hence why it's only legal in the U.S. to marry third cousins and onward. Or is it fourth? I can't remember. Incest
is legal, you just can't be
too closely related. It's also illegal because psychological studies show that the majority of incestual relationships are not consensual and very closely linked with child sexual abuse. You can't draw a parallel on an example which is an abnormality.