I am my parent's favourite.

[Darkfall]

My brother is 5 years older.

Now, your thoughts. Is it right (morally or other) for a parent to have a favourite child?
It'd be unrealistic to assume favouritism WOULDN'T apply, as it's natural, but we're raised to believe that there's an unwritten rule saying they shouldn't.

I am of course flattered, but at the same time question whether they should've told me.

They treats us both equally, and love us both, therefore, any blatent insulting of my parents will be treated as a vicious insult and reported.

 

[shining-Celebi]

I think the oldest child is the "test" child, which will set the standards (or lack of) for the other children. This child the parents can fuck up and learn from their mistakes, as well as implement successful ways of raising a child that they can implement on other children.

And some parents may favor the youngest child because that was the most recent child they were caring for as well as being saved from the hassle of the first..so they grew more attached.

 

[Sapphiredragon929]

Darkfall, your parents are not ones that I would award a good parent medal.

First of all, being the favorite can be a double edge sword, even though you are the favorite, they put you to a high standard, and soon, you will crumble.

And second of all, they should never tell the child that they're their favorite, you reference it in the car on a long road trip. It's a good silent, guessing game.

Finally, my mom does play favorites, but they change quite frequently.

 

[LedZeppelin1]

I'm my grandparent's favorite and it irritates me that they would pick a favorite. They should love all their family equally because it's just how we're brought up to be: equals.

 

[Darkrai00]

well, really it isnt "right" for parents to have a "favorite" child but its gonna happen, theres always gonna be one kid who's better and the parents can deal with easier that makes them rather do stuff with that kid.

 

[Kutie Pie]

Picking favorites is a favorite pasttime guessing game for children, I'll admit to that. It just turns into a hassle trying to get the parents' attention and the competition doing so is terrible and not worth anyone's time. As far as I know, my parents don't have "favorites", though Mom has jokingly claims my younger brother is the favorite. (Jokingly, or just a way to get us off her back, I can only guess.)

But there are favorites in families whether we realize that or not. It's just up to the parents, really. That, or it depends on how the children grow up. My mom is the favorite child in her family because she is the only one who hasn't caused my grandmother grief. (And though Grandma doesn't admit it, it's true.) Children who do what they say and don't make their parents wonder what happened to make them the way they are tend to be favorites. It's not always the baby or the oldest.

The only downside to favorites in families is the pride that one child gets, thinking he/she is better than his/her siblings. It only causes more arguments and tension.

 

[BlitzBlast]

The idea of parents having favorites should only be used in the following manner:

Kid 1: Daddy, which of us do you like better?
Kid 2: It's me right?
Dad: Well sons, your mother and I do have a favorite, and we're thinking of getting a gift for that kid.
Kid 1: Who is it?
Kid 2: Give us a hint!
Dad: Our favorite is quiet.
*Both kids shut up*
*Mom facepalms/laughs*

My parents aren't actually like this, but that's how I think it should be handled.

 

[Pigglez]

I'm the middle child in my family. My parents have never said they specifically have a favorite, and always try to emphasize they have equal love for all three of us. But my mom has on many occasions told me I'm the easiest of my siblings to deal with.

And I would guess most parents have a favorite, but they should never, ever tell the children. That's just not something you do, because it's devastating for the other kids and puts pressure on the favorite.

 

[pichu_power]

I'm A middle child...the favorite is the other middle. My mother favorites the other middle, while my father favorites the youngest.

I don't think favoritism is good in the family...it makes the other(s) feel unimportant and unworthy to the parent's standards...

Honestly, I don't care at all, because privacy and a bit of isolation is exactly what I need...

 

[Fused]

While favoritism of children absolutely sickens me, favoritism changes. I mean, your parents, let's say, favor the youngest of three children. But who did they favor before that third child? Probably the first child (while they could) and then the second as they were the youngest.

 

[Zenotwapal]

I wouldn't think its right to chose a favorite, as you should love all of your children.

even if one of your children is a crack-addicted, abusive, felon, you should still love him/her.

Hey, its your kid.

 

[I cant think of a name]

I wouldn't think its right to chose a favorite, as you should love all of your children.

even if one of your children is a crack-addicted, abusive, felon, you should still love him/her.

Hey, its your kid.

Just because you like one more than the other, it doesn't mean you don't love all of them, the Bible itself says 'you cannot serve two masters', which means you can't love 2 people equally. I wouldn't approve of the parents telling their kids though.

 

[Elementer]

I think parents have "favorites" simply because their parents did the same thing to them, which is why they're used to it. I think that this is unfair, but t hat's just me. Every child has something special, its just that some children have talents that are obvious( e.g being a good artist, being smart,) while others don't. Every child is different, but all are special. I don't know about you guys, but everybody in my family loves their children equally. I mean its like do you love your mom or dad more? Unless one is a crazy, murderous crack addict that would kill you if he saw you, I think the answer is "both". And that's just the bond between kids and parents. The bond between the parents and kids is MUCH deeper.

 

[chickens_rule590]

I dislike favorites, but I deal.
I feel like I'm always getting the short end of the stick, but I could be wrong.
I see friends that DO get treated unfairly, and it annoys me.
However, seeing as my friends and I have grown independent, it doesnt bother us too much anymore....

 

[ijea4444]

For all you know your brother was told the same . Honestly, any person would perfer a person if the other person being compared was 5. Wait until he grows up and it'll change.

 

[LonelyHat]

I don't know... >.>

It's easy to say - "parents absolutely shouldn't have favourites", but is it really possible to spend so much time with two/three/ect. different children and not deal with them differently?

I mean, even if you have picture-perfect parents who categorically deny having favourites, what if one child is hyperactive and exhausting and the other is calmer and helpful? No matter what they say, or even think, on a subconscious level, they will prefer spending time with the "good" one.

 

[Erienne]

I'm the younger of two siblings, but no, for the most part my parents don't play favourites. My brother is autistic, so the only time my parents play favourites really is when he throws a fit or whatever. He's 15, and I'm 13. <_<

 

[Silent Assasin]

I'm the younger of two siblings, but no, for the most part my parents don't play favourites. My brother is autistic, so the only time my parents play favourites really is when he throws a fit or whatever. He's 15, and I'm 13. <_<

Theres the kicker, Special needs, Perents are required to spend more time with one child then the other but does that make them bad perents, no it doesnt, so why would it be wrong to favore a child because it has desireable qualitys? because they cant change that they arnt as good as the other child. so no offence but unless you or your little brother are disabled and/or handicaped then it s moraly wrong to play favorites

 

[Darkfall]

For all you know your brother was told the same . Honestly, any person would perfer a person if the other person being compared was 5. Wait until he grows up and it'll change.

He's 25.

Naturally, when he was the only child - There was no competition.

I wouldn't give my parent's a gold medal either, however the favouritism doesn't manifest in any noticeable manner.

So saying, "you're our favourite" only seems to have reprecussions in my mind.

 

[Lbsweet96]

;476;

Just because you like one more than the other, it doesn't mean you don't love all of them, the Bible itself says 'you cannot serve two masters', which means you can't love 2 people equally. I wouldn't approve of the parents telling their kids though.

Obviously you only have a limited amount of knowledge about the Bible, because that is a direct reference to idolatry. Parents must love all children equally, no matter how they have lived their lives. I personally have witnessed favoritism in its worst case, in which it was shown obviously to the child that they were not loved as much. In general it is horrible to see and causes self esteem issues to the child and will probably lead to more problems as an adult.