Do you want to know why programs aimed at teenagers that try to promote abstinence almost NEVER succeed? Here's why:
Programs like this tend to mess up by trying to balance out the message of how evil and dirty pre-marital sex is with how great and wonderful sex is once you're married. It just doesn't make sense. It's hard to show consensual sex in an unappealing way. Unless the work resorts to outright lies, it really has no argument to show any differences between sex within marriage and sex outside of it other than, "It's bad/sinful/immoral".
In fact, people who trying to show to teens that teenage pregnancy is a risk often hits a dead end too with such attepts. The documentary claims that girls have "ruined their lives" by becoming pregnant. Then the cameras step into the house of a teenage girl whose life was "ended by pregnancy" only to find that, somehow, her life has gone on, and the viewers start to have doubts about the directors's claim. It's harder to fear something with which you've become more familiar. (There's almost inevitably- especially in documentary versions- a statement somewhere about how - at least in her own estimation - she's become twice the person she was and how it's really matured her, and how one just doesn't know what love is 'til one is a mother. The director pretty much digs his own grave there, sending the exact oppsite message he's aiming for.)
And I should also add, trying to claim that "premartial sex is evil" because the church condemns it isn't having as much of an impact these days as it used to, because kids are smart these days. It's no coincidence that the virginity pledge movement and abstinence trends like purity rings have coincided with rising rates of oral and anal sex among teenagers. While individual leaders and parishes have given their opinions on oral and anal sex, the churches of each sect have yet to take an official position on them. Because oral and anal sex can't result in pregnancy, this leads kids to believe they're just a little bit less sinful than vaginal pre-martital sex, and that it doesn't technically count because it's not the same as vaginal sex.
And even with vaginal sex, kids can still find other loopholes, such as being engaged or being "spiritually married". They're not actually married, but they believe that you can still do it as long as you get married later. That part's prettymuch in the Bible: ancient Israelite (precursor to Jewish) law specified vaginal intercourse between a man and woman who were both unmarried as being exactly equivalent to marriage vows, the couple becomes instantly married (modern equivalent being "common law" marriage). Hence what seems to be a punishment for premarital sex (marriage) is actually a logical consequence (and hence no ban on fiancee sex).
In short... It used to be that virgins were thought of as "pure". Nowadays, it's not thought of as such a big a deal as it used to be.
Programs like this tend to mess up by trying to balance out the message of how evil and dirty pre-marital sex is with how great and wonderful sex is once you're married. It just doesn't make sense. It's hard to show consensual sex in an unappealing way. Unless the work resorts to outright lies, it really has no argument to show any differences between sex within marriage and sex outside of it other than, "It's bad/sinful/immoral".
In fact, people who trying to show to teens that teenage pregnancy is a risk often hits a dead end too with such attepts. The documentary claims that girls have "ruined their lives" by becoming pregnant. Then the cameras step into the house of a teenage girl whose life was "ended by pregnancy" only to find that, somehow, her life has gone on, and the viewers start to have doubts about the directors's claim. It's harder to fear something with which you've become more familiar. (There's almost inevitably- especially in documentary versions- a statement somewhere about how - at least in her own estimation - she's become twice the person she was and how it's really matured her, and how one just doesn't know what love is 'til one is a mother. The director pretty much digs his own grave there, sending the exact oppsite message he's aiming for.)
And I should also add, trying to claim that "premartial sex is evil" because the church condemns it isn't having as much of an impact these days as it used to, because kids are smart these days. It's no coincidence that the virginity pledge movement and abstinence trends like purity rings have coincided with rising rates of oral and anal sex among teenagers. While individual leaders and parishes have given their opinions on oral and anal sex, the churches of each sect have yet to take an official position on them. Because oral and anal sex can't result in pregnancy, this leads kids to believe they're just a little bit less sinful than vaginal pre-martital sex, and that it doesn't technically count because it's not the same as vaginal sex.
And even with vaginal sex, kids can still find other loopholes, such as being engaged or being "spiritually married". They're not actually married, but they believe that you can still do it as long as you get married later. That part's prettymuch in the Bible: ancient Israelite (precursor to Jewish) law specified vaginal intercourse between a man and woman who were both unmarried as being exactly equivalent to marriage vows, the couple becomes instantly married (modern equivalent being "common law" marriage). Hence what seems to be a punishment for premarital sex (marriage) is actually a logical consequence (and hence no ban on fiancee sex).
In short... It used to be that virgins were thought of as "pure". Nowadays, it's not thought of as such a big a deal as it used to be.