maybe i need some clarification. and/or maybe it will help others too. when are you guys SRing for the secret mission? are you engaging steven in conv. and seeing what he says, or only checking for "lets go on an adventure" to instead say "lets go somewhere secret" (or however those are worded)? my understanding is that once you do the secret mission, the option will be there for going somewhere secret, but not that the verbiage changes from adventure to secret before actually completing the mission. i was SRing only looking for that change and not always waiting to see what he says, but i think that might be the wrong way to do it. any input?
edit: nvm. i think i found what i was looking for. after selecting "Let's have an adventure." the first time you encounter the secret mission, you are looking for Steven to say, "It looks as though running them off once wasn't enough. That foolish team is back and causing more trouble. Orlando, I'll ask for your assistance once more." if it says missing poke, someone is lost, trainer battle, etc., then SR. the secret mission option only appears after completing it, and you have to engage Steven to see what he says to tell if it is the secret mission.