I must've missed you posting the source, so I'll apologize for that much. However...
Then clearly we should just close this thread by that logic, because the dictionary solves everything! Even though there's plenty of words with alternate usages, colloquial or specialized or whatever, that don't show up in the dictionary.
You don't get to say "this is what the dictionary says so it's automatically right, the end, I win" in a debate. Any debate. It doesn't work that way.
On that note, I decided to do some Googling, and I came up with this. It boils down to rape being either:
A) Sex that clearly lacks consent,
B) Sex that involves force, coercion/threats, blackmail, etc.,
C) Sex performed when the victim is unable to issue consent otherwise, such as comatose, asleep, or otherwise incapacitated.
A and B aren't really up for discussion as to whether they'd be enjoyed by the victim, but C is a little trickier. Assuming, for example, a girl of legal age is asleep or unconscious, and her boyfriend, for whatever reason, begins to make sexual contact or even penetrates her. If she doesn't realize it's happening and is physically or mentally unable to consent, it's rape.
...But then, we move onto the question of whether or not she enjoyed it after the fact. Personally, I think if any sane girl found out her boyfriend had sex with her in her sleep, she'd be skeeved as hell and dump his *** real quick.
Now, let's change the story a bit from the girl being unconscious to her being mentally or physically incapacitated, but still conscious and able to understand at some level what's going on. Maybe she's been in an accident and sustained some injuries. She still can't consent to the sex legally, but she's aware of what's happening. She may have wanted to get intimate with him previously, maybe before this hypothetical accident, and she may still want to even after it. The question isn't whether that's rape, though, it's whether she can enjoy it.
Well, let me put it this way, I suppose. Is she capable of enjoying it? To some extent, yes, though it depends on the person because various people have various reactions to being raped, during and after the fact, whether they wanted it or not. Is she likely to enjoy it? I'm inclined to say no, because most women who can think for themselves will be revolted as hell that any significant other they may have at the time would do that to them while they're in a state that disallows them from participating, enjoying it fully, or even really clearly consenting to it.
I maintain that no matter what the circumstances of the rape happen to be, no matter the age or gender of the victim, it will still do some damage to them, mentally if not physically. Even if they don't understand it, or aren't conscious of the change in them... it will still hurt them in some way. And taking into account the fact that they might not understand it hurt them can then call into question whether they can really enjoy something like that, in a mind that most people wouldn't consider completely "right".
Definitions can't be discussed because any opinion about them that differs from the dictionary is incorrect.
The thread asks about if it's possible to enjoy rape and I argue that it is. It's possible by definition and therefore there is nothing left to debate about, yet you keep not agreeing.
Then clearly we should just close this thread by that logic, because the dictionary solves everything! Even though there's plenty of words with alternate usages, colloquial or specialized or whatever, that don't show up in the dictionary.
You don't get to say "this is what the dictionary says so it's automatically right, the end, I win" in a debate. Any debate. It doesn't work that way.
It's not lazy. If I am to answer if it's possible to enjoy rape, I need to know exactly what is rape. The definition implies that it is possible and that ends the debate. Arguing against a definition is just stupid, you stop using English when you redefine the words.
On that note, I decided to do some Googling, and I came up with this. It boils down to rape being either:
A) Sex that clearly lacks consent,
B) Sex that involves force, coercion/threats, blackmail, etc.,
C) Sex performed when the victim is unable to issue consent otherwise, such as comatose, asleep, or otherwise incapacitated.
A and B aren't really up for discussion as to whether they'd be enjoyed by the victim, but C is a little trickier. Assuming, for example, a girl of legal age is asleep or unconscious, and her boyfriend, for whatever reason, begins to make sexual contact or even penetrates her. If she doesn't realize it's happening and is physically or mentally unable to consent, it's rape.
...But then, we move onto the question of whether or not she enjoyed it after the fact. Personally, I think if any sane girl found out her boyfriend had sex with her in her sleep, she'd be skeeved as hell and dump his *** real quick.
Now, let's change the story a bit from the girl being unconscious to her being mentally or physically incapacitated, but still conscious and able to understand at some level what's going on. Maybe she's been in an accident and sustained some injuries. She still can't consent to the sex legally, but she's aware of what's happening. She may have wanted to get intimate with him previously, maybe before this hypothetical accident, and she may still want to even after it. The question isn't whether that's rape, though, it's whether she can enjoy it.
Well, let me put it this way, I suppose. Is she capable of enjoying it? To some extent, yes, though it depends on the person because various people have various reactions to being raped, during and after the fact, whether they wanted it or not. Is she likely to enjoy it? I'm inclined to say no, because most women who can think for themselves will be revolted as hell that any significant other they may have at the time would do that to them while they're in a state that disallows them from participating, enjoying it fully, or even really clearly consenting to it.
I maintain that no matter what the circumstances of the rape happen to be, no matter the age or gender of the victim, it will still do some damage to them, mentally if not physically. Even if they don't understand it, or aren't conscious of the change in them... it will still hurt them in some way. And taking into account the fact that they might not understand it hurt them can then call into question whether they can really enjoy something like that, in a mind that most people wouldn't consider completely "right".