matt0044 said:
Whoa, dude. You really don't have to be that blunt. Phalanx is addressing the possibility that you're talking about something specific, an option that you've opened up in your original post when you mentioned your own personal experiences.
Pleasantries aside, allow me to throw in my two cents.
Talking about the art of writing is all well and good, but it's useful to remember that sometimes it comes down to context as well. If you post your work on a journaling site or a site where criticism is not encouraged, then you most definitely have the right to tell someone off. However, if you post your work on a
forum or another community for developing authors to post their work specifically to get crit ... then you sort of forfeit your right to say, "omg hdu criticize my work." See, the difference is all in implication. On a closed community that doesn't encourage crit, it's on the reviewer to tread lightly because it's implied that you're not necessarily accepting criticism. Conversely, on a community that encourages criticism or that outright says "post here to get your work criticized," it's on
you, the
author to understand that you're going to get crit because the actual act of posting there says, "Hi! I'm looking for crit!" So, yeah, of course you'd get crit in an open environment because that's just what the reviewers in those communities
do.
With that distinction out of the way, can you reject someone's criticism? That
also depends on context. Are most other people pointing out that same issue? Then chances are, it's a basic issue that you probably should resolve. Are most other people pointing it out as something they like? Then chances are, you can get away with not changing it. (Note: If a reader doesn't point out a problem, that doesn't necessarily mean it's not a problem!)
Moreover, what are the reasons why that reviewer is pointing out that issue? Are those arguments sound? Would making that change improve your story? Then chances are, yes, you'll want to make that change. Would making that change actually cause
issues in your story? Then you're free to reject it, but do so politely.
See, the reason why I emphasize all of these distinctions is because on places like Serebii, reviewers aren't just trying to shoot you down. They're also not trying to tread on your literary vision. What they're trying to do is
help you resolve issues in your writing so that you can improve. By posting to crit-open communities such as this one, you admit that you're not the best writer; that's why you (implicitly) seek the advice of others. So by sticking to your guns—especially if you do so in a hostile manner that results in heated debates—you advertise yourself badly because the reviewers in communities such as this wouldn't be interested in handling a writer who is known to argue against negative reviews they might receive.
However, that isn't to say that there are never situations in which sticking to your guns is a good idea. If you're on a
crit-closed community (such as deviantART, AO3, Tumblr, LiveJournal, and possibly BMGf), the lean is more towards the author, and it's implied that the author isn't there to look for crit but is, rather, simply posting their work. At that point, yes, you are absolutely free to reject criticism to your heart's content. Likewise, there is such a thing as a piece of bad advice. There's not only the situation that Rediamond touched on (the difference between a stylistic preference and an actual error in grammar and syntax), but sometimes, you might have bad advice in avoiding Mary Sues, improving characterization, developing plot ... really, in short, it's the subjective parts of the story that could prompt someone to give you bad advice. In those cases, it's really up to your judgment because you know your story and what works for it the best, but like I said, you absolutely
must respond to your reviewers as politely as you can. (Even just saying, "Thanks for the advice! I thought it over, but I think that if I did this, then this would happen. I'm not sure if that would work for my fic, but I appreciate your thoughts nonetheless.")
That is how you avoid an argument with a reviewer. Yes, you should at least say "thank you; I'll think about it" to the inflammatory ones. It's just courtesy.
In short, to start things off, it depends on context. In some cases, you'll really want to look hard at the review, think about what's being said, and decide from there what your course of action should be.