Sometimes thats not all that you need if you're speaking to the point of something like marriage. Money is actually one of the few things you need to think about if you're at the point of marriage so I don't think "Love conquers all" is the only thing a couple should worry about. I wouldn't say to just look at how much he/she cares but I wouldn't say money is the only thing that should matter. It's just one of the many attributes people have to think about.Money shouldn't be a factor at all. If you really care about that person then being with them is enough to satisfy you
Money shouldn't be a factor at all. If you really care about that person then being with them is enough to satisfy you
Yeti said:Ok, take it like this:
-we don't want to date men who smoke weed
-we don't want to date men with no job
-we don't want to date men with no college degree
-we don't want to date men who obviously have a problem working their way up or holding a job
Two years for me and my bf in February. w00t. We've always gotten along really well and have a lot in common ^_^
Yay for you!! ^_^
You've already reached the average time a marriage lasts. Aim for year number three!!
It doesn't always reflect on personality. Many times, it's circumstances. Not EVERYONE needs to go to college or get a degree. Some occupations do not require such education. Some people were just unable to due to money, situation, etc.I'm not, I'm just saying I would never want to date a man who has no ability to support himself. If he's not secure and stable on his own, without my salary, I'm not interested.
It reflects on a man's personality, if he can accomplish 4+ years of college education and hold a successful job with a good sum of money and a reasonable workload. If he can't, there's probably some commitment problem he has, and that is a red flag to me a relationship with him won't be ending as I want.
I truly hope you mean this from an illegal standpoint and not a moral one. Not every person that smokes weed is some 24/7 addict.-we don't want to date men who smoke weed
As I said above, circumstances should definitely come into play.-we don't want to date men with no job
-we don't want to date men with no college degree
-we don't want to date men who obviously have a problem working their way up or holding a job
Let's examine some of the words you used:Is it terrible that girls who intend to complete college education and hold well-paying, stable jobs want to find men with the same interests and capabilities as them? Like sorry we don't want to stoop down to some guy who doesn't have the same values as us. It probably wouldn't have worked out anyways with such a discrepancy.
"too dumb to get into college", because the only thing people need to do go go to college is to be smart. You can tell you're a suburban spoiled brat. You don't need to go to college to be intelligent. There are well self-taught people out there. This is pretty funny coming from a girl who just graduated out of high school, too. I've been in college for 3 years, and I can honestly say that I barely know anymore than a high school graduate save for some things that don't matter in a relationship. Are you really going to turn down a person because they don't know an example DNA code? I hope not.And if some guy was too dumb to get into college I wouldn't be able to stand him anyway, honestly. I need intelligent people to talk with.
It doesn't always reflect on personality. Many times, it's circumstances. Not EVERYONE needs to go to college or get a degree. Some occupations do not require such education. Some people were just unable to due to money, situation, etc.
I truly hope you mean this from an illegal standpoint and not a moral one. Not every person that smokes weed is some 24/7 addict.
As I said above, circumstances should definitely come into play.
Let's examine some of the words you used:
"values" and "interests"
I want to know how these three words relate to status and occupation. Does going to college mean they will automatically have the same interests as you?
How can you judge someone's values 100% by the occupation they hold?
And why would you be stooping down, exactly?
"too dumb to get into college", because the only thing people need to do go go to college is to be smart. You can tell you're a suburban spoiled brat. You don't need to go to college to be intelligent. There are well self-taught people out there. This is pretty funny coming from a girl who just graduated out of high school, too. I've been in college for 3 years, and I can honestly say that I barely know anymore than a high school graduate save for some things that don't matter in a relationship. Are you really going to turn down a person because they don't know an example DNA code? I hope not.
I acknowledge that dating some has-been who refuses to work at all is not worth dating for, but if we're talking about people who actually worked hard, made one mistake in life and regret it, or simply isn't/wasn't in the right situation to succeed, THEY need that second chance. There is so much more to a person than what they do to put food on the table. A lot of life truly is circumstances, and that "perfect guy" just might be that bus boy. It's like they say, people who live under tend to be more appreciative.
You make it sound like not having a degree means they'll automatically be jobless. Even in today's economy, there are successful people with decent lives who lack a degree. This mindset that says "get a degree or you fail at life" is only injected into us constantly from school and stuck up parenting. The majority of people DON'T have a college degree, and many of them are living comfortable, independent lives.We kinda got that the first 50 times it's been said. We still aren't really interesting in dating someone that doesn't go to college because there's typically a better chance at finding a guy that WILL have a stable job if he attended college. It's too risky to try and date someone that hasn't gone to college because they may never find a job. It's hard to find a job without a college degree these days. Even if you do get a job, you may not get paid that much because it's either a very lackluster one, or you lack a degree from a higher educational institution, which in turn may reap a lower paycheck than the guy that DID go to college.
"So bad"? Do you think college is cheap or something?If their circumstances were so bad that they couldn't pay to go to college, then sorry. You just aren't someone I'd be willing to date. You may think that all you need to do is love them and everything will be alright, BUT IT DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY LOL!!! How hard is it to understand that? LOVE WON'T GET YOU A JOB! LOVE WON'T GET YOU MONEY! LOVE WILL NOT MAKE SURE YOU AREN'T POOR!!! LOVE AIN'T GONNA PAY THE BILLS BRO!!!! LOL.
Good GRIEF, ugh.
Stereotypical and uneducated view of marijuana. Check.Well I, myself, mean it from a moral standpoint. I'd rather have someone that DOESN'T smoke pot so my eventually hypothetical children won't be exposed to that and end up like Lindsay Lohan or Miley Cyrus. Children will find out eventually if one of their parents, or both, smokes weed.
You could try looking at the post I was replying to.no one has even said that going to college would automatically mean that they'll have the same interests as you.
It's a good thing we're not talking about drug dealers and just people with regular jobs!You can absolutely judge someone's values by the occupation they hold:
Lawyer - intelligent, upstanding; obviously has the capabilities to support themself and their family because of the obvious high salary they receive. they must value their education very much by attending college and law school to reach such a high level in society
Drug dealer - craptastic, terrible, disgusting, vile lifeform; obviously has the capabilities to smoke crystal meth, LSD, shoot heroin, and any other drug known on this vast planet. they must not value themselves or their life if they choose to sell narcotics rather than go to college to make something of themselves.
Yes, because those are the only possibilities.If you barely know anymore than a high school graduate after being in college for 3 years, something is either HORRIBLY wrong with the school you go to, or you've been a lazy sad-sack the entire time you've been there. Or both teehee. :3
Because everyone without a degree weren't the best they could be?"People who live under tend to be more appreciative" that's cool. They also say, "be the best you can be."
You make it sound like not having a degree means they'll automatically be jobless. Even in today's economy, there are successful people with decent lives who lack a degree. This mindset that says "get a degree or you fail at life" is only injected into us constantly from school and stuck up parenting. The majority of people DON'T have a college degree, and many of them are living comfortable, independent lives.
"So bad"? Do you think college is cheap or something?
And not sure what you said in caps. I hope it was sarcasm because it doesn't really address much of my point. I'm not talking about jobless people.
Stereotypical and uneducated view of marijuana. Check.
You could try looking at the post I was replying to.
It's a good thing we're not talking about drug dealers and just people with regular jobs!
Even if we go down the job route, it still wouldn't necessarily point to personality traits. Do you find it strange that most rich people and top occupations tend to have people who grew up in better homes, neighborhoods, and had family alumni go to top schools? Let's not pretend circumstances aren't in place. Those "rags to riches stories" are actually incredibly rare and merely give us the idea that anybody can become anything as long as they work hard. That is probably the biggest lie America has ever told.
Yes, because those are the only possibilities.
College is simple. It doesn't put people miles ahead of anyone else in intelligence. Most of it is textbook based (unless you take a lot of hands on related stuff) which could easily just by read by anyone who buys it and studies it in-depth. (I'm not talking about graduate schools, btw).
Because everyone without a degree weren't the best they could be?
Mars Girl said:Neither am I gonna bother with someone that doesn't go to college.
First off, you ARE bothering with someone who doesn't go to college.
Second off, it is very arrogant to think that college makes you better than anyone else in any way. Some of the brightest people EVER in history never attended any sort of school. Many of my own family members never went to college, and they are the brightest of the bright. My father scored very high in a college placement test when he was in high school, but he still never went to college. Why? He was grew up on a farm, and he was raised to believe that he was nothing, and that he would always be too poor to do anything with his life. So, he didn't do his assignments in school, and when he did he didn't try. So he barely passed high school. It wasn't until his senior year that he learned of college scholarships. His little school was not too big on that sort of information. And by then he thought it was too late to do anything else. His family wasn't too big on education. Later, he did try to go to school to learn Architecture, but by then he had a child, and he had to take care of her mother and his child (my half sister), and take a poor-paying job on top of that.
I myself attended college, and guess what? I don't believe that they taught anything of much importance there. It seemed that the true purpose of the institution is to teach you that everything you already believe is a lie. It seemed that it was trying to take all the mystery and FUN out of everything. The best thing I learned was probably suicide prevention. I enjoyed the literature, but I could have read that at home. The only good going to school does you (in my experience) is that stupid piece of paper you get at the end that says you learned something.
I'm not putting down education. I'm sure that some schools are not like the one I attended, but like I said, from MY EXPERIENCE, college doesn't teach that much.