randomspot555
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So here's a non politics and religion topic. I know these usually don't go too well because the topics aren't nearly as controversial, but it's been on my mind lately:
Our society is fairly open about sex. It's not uncommon to see some television couple throw down and not make anything more of it, no change in the dynamic they had before they had sex.
But in actual life, is this possible?
I keep hearing from real-life experience (mostly friends, associates, and these horrid college newspapers) that college is just one big sex romp with academic crap in between, but it rarely seems to work that way. Even in the most "casual" of these relationships, I've seen these people do things that are normally reserved for couples. Holding hands, public displays of affection, do stuff alone that seem a lot like dates...it's like they're doing everything a couple does, just not calling themselves a couple.
So are these....non-couple couples just using it as a term so they don't have to commit, or are they just dumb? Or what?
And in the few instances where I've seen others commit an actual no strings arrangement, one of the two is usually hoping that it'll turn into an actual relationship, or one or both develop feelings.
Do people delude themselves often when trying to find a mate? Why would they agree to a form of relationship that they ultimately don't want, or want it to be much more?
Is there a certain level of relationships where no-strings-attached sex can work? Casual friends, really close friends, people you only know by association, one night stands, ex significant others?
And even outside of human relationships, is it biologically possible? I'm not a man of science (failed every test in my high school biology class), but I've read that the act of sex releases chemicals that cause the feeling of attachment, and that even simpler sensual actions like kissing can release pheromones. So are these people who claim to have had "no strings attached" sex just lying, or is their body processing sex just a bit differently than most everyone else?
Or maybe it's an age thing. Are sexual relations significantly different between someone in their early and mid 20s to late 20s and 30s, or even older, either on a biological level or mental level?
Fake edit: This is mainly concerning about "no strings attached" sex, a relationship between friends or loose associates (friend of friend, co-worker, etc...) where no romantic relationship is formed, and the only difference between them and other friends or associates is they sleep together.
Fake edit 2: While this is a thread about sex, I'd like it if this doesn't turn into a "hay guyz i gotz teH seXZ"...you know, don't let your personal experience completely dictate how you think.
VVV You can talk about topics that you haven't personally experienced. For example, I've posted in the Politics thread even though I've never ran for or held office, and posted about other religions that I am not a part of.
Our society is fairly open about sex. It's not uncommon to see some television couple throw down and not make anything more of it, no change in the dynamic they had before they had sex.
But in actual life, is this possible?
I keep hearing from real-life experience (mostly friends, associates, and these horrid college newspapers) that college is just one big sex romp with academic crap in between, but it rarely seems to work that way. Even in the most "casual" of these relationships, I've seen these people do things that are normally reserved for couples. Holding hands, public displays of affection, do stuff alone that seem a lot like dates...it's like they're doing everything a couple does, just not calling themselves a couple.
So are these....non-couple couples just using it as a term so they don't have to commit, or are they just dumb? Or what?
And in the few instances where I've seen others commit an actual no strings arrangement, one of the two is usually hoping that it'll turn into an actual relationship, or one or both develop feelings.
Do people delude themselves often when trying to find a mate? Why would they agree to a form of relationship that they ultimately don't want, or want it to be much more?
Is there a certain level of relationships where no-strings-attached sex can work? Casual friends, really close friends, people you only know by association, one night stands, ex significant others?
And even outside of human relationships, is it biologically possible? I'm not a man of science (failed every test in my high school biology class), but I've read that the act of sex releases chemicals that cause the feeling of attachment, and that even simpler sensual actions like kissing can release pheromones. So are these people who claim to have had "no strings attached" sex just lying, or is their body processing sex just a bit differently than most everyone else?
Or maybe it's an age thing. Are sexual relations significantly different between someone in their early and mid 20s to late 20s and 30s, or even older, either on a biological level or mental level?
Fake edit: This is mainly concerning about "no strings attached" sex, a relationship between friends or loose associates (friend of friend, co-worker, etc...) where no romantic relationship is formed, and the only difference between them and other friends or associates is they sleep together.
Fake edit 2: While this is a thread about sex, I'd like it if this doesn't turn into a "hay guyz i gotz teH seXZ"...you know, don't let your personal experience completely dictate how you think.
VVV You can talk about topics that you haven't personally experienced. For example, I've posted in the Politics thread even though I've never ran for or held office, and posted about other religions that I am not a part of.
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