Re: men & body types/body hair!
I'm very picky when it comes to my men... Too picky at times. I like them bigger than me. I'm barely 5'8" and like 130, so I'm fairly small for a "man." So basically to win my heart, you have to be tall (at least 5'10", the taller the better), kinda stocky, a little muscle is nice and hairy is very sexy. Also like I said before, I like them masculine and older than me. Oh, and did I mention tattoos? I love a guy who's inked. <3 I guess I like my guys more on the bear-ish side, but I'm definately NOT a chubby chaser.
What's really ironic is that I LOVE body hair on others, but I hate it on myself. Thankfully I'm naturally not that hairy (despite being Russian AND Italian) but I do shave it all off but what's on my head. What can I say, I like to be smooth and my man likes it too. I guess by most gay people's standards I'd be considered a "twink" but I really despise that label for obvious reasons. Someone called me a "punk twink" the other day, which surprisingly didn't offend me too much but it still made me cringe.
Oh, and...
If life has taught me only one thing, it's that you should not come out in school unless you want to get beaten/stabed/shot/killed by h8rs.
Yeah... NOT true. Really how often do you hear of that even happening these days? Sure in the 90s we had instances such as the Matthew Sheppard case, but that kind of thing rarely happens anymore in America. It's something called a HATE CRIME and obviously, against the law. Not saying it never happens, it's just not something that's a huge problem anymore. I've been openly gay since 8th grade and nothing like that has ever happened to me. Sure I've gotten harassed more times than I can count but never once has anyone beat me up, stabbed me, shot me, or obviously killed me. In fact, I was the one that got in trouble and expelled from my first highschool for kicking a biggot in the head. He called me a f@gg*t and I was already having a crappy day, so I put my boot right into the back of his head as he was opening his locker. I do NOT condone violence, however if people are giving you crap you gotta stand your ground or they will continue to do so.
In regaurds to comming out... Whoever that was, do it only when you feel absolutely comfortable. It can be very liberating to come out, but some parent's aren't very accepting of it at first. It most likely will cause a lot of attention at first, just an fyi. My mom was the last person I officially came out to, and at first she didn't even believe that I was gay. Of course like most parents, she thought it was just a phase... But she's over it now and is very accepting.
I don't really know what other advice to give other than be strong, and be true to yourself. Good luck with that!