People who care about your well-being should be able to hear you out regardless of if you think you're overreacting or not. Besides, if you have any doubts about how you feel, it's always a good idea to talk to someone. Not even necessarily your parents first, but a teacher or even a friend.So basically, what I'm asking is if this is something I have to worry about. Is it just part of being a teenager? Am I overreacting? I want to be sure its something serious before I go speak to my parents or a counselor. I don't want to trouble them if it turns out to be something normal.
In situations such as yours I think you're far better off talking to a professional than your parents, by all means tell them you aren't happy with your situation but at the end of the day, unless they are trained in that field, they are no more aware if what you are going through as you are. The professionals are educated & experienced to help people exactly when they go through what you are.Thanks for the help everyone. I'm seriously considering telling someone, but my only problem is figuring out who to tell. I really don't want to tell my parents. When it comes to stuff like this, they tend to become very mean. Like when they found out about my self-harm they sort of threatened me to stop and it was kinda traumatizing. I hope they'll take a nicer stance this time.
So I don't normally post here looking for advice, but I'm kind of at the end of my rope and I'm not sure what to do anymore.
I'll try to keep it brief, but no promises. So about two months ago or so, I broke up with my boyfriend of almost four years. There were a lot of reasons for this that I won't get into here, but the last straw was when I spent a weekend visiting my best friend and he got jealous and angry. He said a lot of really hurtful (and untrue) things, suggested I sleep with a random stranger, and said that he thought we should "take a break." So I dumped him because I don't play mind games like that. I am 100% positive his actions where with the intent to get me to feel guilty and beg him for forgiveness, but it didn't work out that way because I have more self-esteem than that now. He made a lot of (bullshit) excuses and said a lot of things that made zero sense. So I made it very clear early on that the relationship was over and that I was done dealing with this kind of thing (he's done a lot of borderline emotionally abusive/manipulative things in the past that I let slide because I was dumb). He texted me constantly (like, long 20-text long rants/explanations/etc) saying he made a mistake and asking if we could talk it out, etc. I told him that I said everything I had to say and that I didn't think there was anything more to talk about. So he continued to text me. Sometimes they were love-dovey I-can't-live-without-you drivel and sometimes they were more angry, calling me childish and disrespectful for not texting him back, etc. He has deluded himself into believing that my best friend and my mom talked me into breaking up with him (not true at all as they were not involved) and that I still have feelings for him (also not true because the only feeling I have for him now is annoyance).
Eventually, it got so bad that he was texting me incessantly while I was at work and getting angry that I wasn't texting back fast enough so I threatened to have my cell number changed if he didn't stop bothering me. So he stopped for a while. It seems like he stops for a few days to a week at a time, and then he texts me again out of the blue when I think he's finally done. I have been ignoring his texts because even if I text back with simply "I'm at work" or "I have nothing to say to you" he tells our mutual friends that me responding to him at all means that I am madly in love with him (no joke). I am just seriously tired of being harassed weekly and not having my decision respected. I understand that I completely shattered his heart and all, but I've also made it very clear that I am moving forward with my life and have absolutely no intention of taking him back. He just will not let it go. I've blocked him on Skype and Facebook. I feel like my only option to completely cut off his communication with me is to get my cell number changed, but the only problem with that is that I have some job applications out that have that number on them and I don't want to miss any job opportunities because I had to change my number. I don't know if I should take the potential loss of opportunities in favor of peace of mind or not. A friend suggested I send him a cease and desist letter, but I don't know if that would have an legal bearing and I'm worried that he'll read into as me still being in love with him because I contacted him at all.
Which brings me to my current predicament(s). Today is my birthday (woo...) and some of our mutual friends have warned me that he told them he shipped me a gift (even though they told him repeatedly not to because it was definitely a bad idea). I have no idea what it is as it hasn't gotten here yet. And I have no idea what to do with it once it gets here... My mom suggested I send it back unopened, but I'm worried that by sending it back he might see it as "communication" of some sort (and thereby continue believing I have feelings for him). Someone else suggested I open it, throw away anything personal (cards, letters, pictures, etc) that might be in it unopened, and donate the rest of the items if there are any. So I don't know if I should send it back when it gets here or just toss it in the trash? Because if I send it back, I can see him seeing it as "communication" that I love him but I'm also not going to text him and tell him that I threw it away if I do that because that is communication and I now know how he reads that. I also have some of his clothes that he left here and I don't know if I should ship them back to him (he hasn't asked for them back, though...) or just donate them to Goodwill. I'm kind of tempted to do the latter because I don't want any correspondence with him at all.
TL;DR How 2 deal w/ delusional manchild. Plz halp.
So I don't normally post here looking for advice, but I'm kind of at the end of my rope and I'm not sure what to do anymore.
I'll try to keep it brief, but no promises. So about two months ago or so, I broke up with my boyfriend of almost four years. There were a lot of reasons for this that I won't get into here, but the last straw was when I spent a weekend visiting my best friend and he got jealous and angry. He said a lot of really hurtful (and untrue) things, suggested I sleep with a random stranger, and said that he thought we should "take a break." So I dumped him because I don't play mind games like that. I am 100% positive his actions where with the intent to get me to feel guilty and beg him for forgiveness, but it didn't work out that way because I have more self-esteem than that now. He made a lot of (bullshit) excuses and said a lot of things that made zero sense. So I made it very clear early on that the relationship was over and that I was done dealing with this kind of thing (he's done a lot of borderline emotionally abusive/manipulative things in the past that I let slide because I was dumb). He texted me constantly (like, long 20-text long rants/explanations/etc) saying he made a mistake and asking if we could talk it out, etc. I told him that I said everything I had to say and that I didn't think there was anything more to talk about. So he continued to text me. Sometimes they were love-dovey I-can't-live-without-you drivel and sometimes they were more angry, calling me childish and disrespectful for not texting him back, etc. He has deluded himself into believing that my best friend and my mom talked me into breaking up with him (not true at all as they were not involved) and that I still have feelings for him (also not true because the only feeling I have for him now is annoyance).
Eventually, it got so bad that he was texting me incessantly while I was at work and getting angry that I wasn't texting back fast enough so I threatened to have my cell number changed if he didn't stop bothering me. So he stopped for a while. It seems like he stops for a few days to a week at a time, and then he texts me again out of the blue when I think he's finally done. I have been ignoring his texts because even if I text back with simply "I'm at work" or "I have nothing to say to you" he tells our mutual friends that me responding to him at all means that I am madly in love with him (no joke). I am just seriously tired of being harassed weekly and not having my decision respected. I understand that I completely shattered his heart and all, but I've also made it very clear that I am moving forward with my life and have absolutely no intention of taking him back. He just will not let it go. I've blocked him on Skype and Facebook. I feel like my only option to completely cut off his communication with me is to get my cell number changed, but the only problem with that is that I have some job applications out that have that number on them and I don't want to miss any job opportunities because I had to change my number. I don't know if I should take the potential loss of opportunities in favor of peace of mind or not. A friend suggested I send him a cease and desist letter, but I don't know if that would have an legal bearing and I'm worried that he'll read into as me still being in love with him because I contacted him at all.
Which brings me to my current predicament(s). Today is my birthday (woo...) and some of our mutual friends have warned me that he told them he shipped me a gift (even though they told him repeatedly not to because it was definitely a bad idea). I have no idea what it is as it hasn't gotten here yet. And I have no idea what to do with it once it gets here... My mom suggested I send it back unopened, but I'm worried that by sending it back he might see it as "communication" of some sort (and thereby continue believing I have feelings for him). Someone else suggested I open it, throw away anything personal (cards, letters, pictures, etc) that might be in it unopened, and donate the rest of the items if there are any. So I don't know if I should send it back when it gets here or just toss it in the trash? Because if I send it back, I can see him seeing it as "communication" that I love him but I'm also not going to text him and tell him that I threw it away if I do that because that is communication and I now know how he reads that. I also have some of his clothes that he left here and I don't know if I should ship them back to him (he hasn't asked for them back, though...) or just donate them to Goodwill. I'm kind of tempted to do the latter because I don't want any correspondence with him at all.
TL;DR How 2 deal w/ delusional manchild. Plz halp.
So I don't normally post here looking for advice, but I'm kind of at the end of my rope and I'm not sure what to do anymore.
I'll try to keep it brief, but no promises. So about two months ago or so, I broke up with my boyfriend of almost four years. There were a lot of reasons for this that I won't get into here, but the last straw was when I spent a weekend visiting my best friend and he got jealous and angry. He said a lot of really hurtful (and untrue) things, suggested I sleep with a random stranger, and said that he thought we should "take a break." So I dumped him because I don't play mind games like that. I am 100% positive his actions where with the intent to get me to feel guilty and beg him for forgiveness, but it didn't work out that way because I have more self-esteem than that now. He made a lot of (bullshit) excuses and said a lot of things that made zero sense. So I made it very clear early on that the relationship was over and that I was done dealing with this kind of thing (he's done a lot of borderline emotionally abusive/manipulative things in the past that I let slide because I was dumb). He texted me constantly (like, long 20-text long rants/explanations/etc) saying he made a mistake and asking if we could talk it out, etc. I told him that I said everything I had to say and that I didn't think there was anything more to talk about. So he continued to text me. Sometimes they were love-dovey I-can't-live-without-you drivel and sometimes they were more angry, calling me childish and disrespectful for not texting him back, etc. He has deluded himself into believing that my best friend and my mom talked me into breaking up with him (not true at all as they were not involved) and that I still have feelings for him (also not true because the only feeling I have for him now is annoyance).
Eventually, it got so bad that he was texting me incessantly while I was at work and getting angry that I wasn't texting back fast enough so I threatened to have my cell number changed if he didn't stop bothering me. So he stopped for a while. It seems like he stops for a few days to a week at a time, and then he texts me again out of the blue when I think he's finally done. I have been ignoring his texts because even if I text back with simply "I'm at work" or "I have nothing to say to you" he tells our mutual friends that me responding to him at all means that I am madly in love with him (no joke). I am just seriously tired of being harassed weekly and not having my decision respected. I understand that I completely shattered his heart and all, but I've also made it very clear that I am moving forward with my life and have absolutely no intention of taking him back. He just will not let it go. I've blocked him on Skype and Facebook. I feel like my only option to completely cut off his communication with me is to get my cell number changed, but the only problem with that is that I have some job applications out that have that number on them and I don't want to miss any job opportunities because I had to change my number. I don't know if I should take the potential loss of opportunities in favor of peace of mind or not. A friend suggested I send him a cease and desist letter, but I don't know if that would have an legal bearing and I'm worried that he'll read into as me still being in love with him because I contacted him at all.
Which brings me to my current predicament(s). Today is my birthday (woo...) and some of our mutual friends have warned me that he told them he shipped me a gift (even though they told him repeatedly not to because it was definitely a bad idea). I have no idea what it is as it hasn't gotten here yet. And I have no idea what to do with it once it gets here... My mom suggested I send it back unopened, but I'm worried that by sending it back he might see it as "communication" of some sort (and thereby continue believing I have feelings for him). Someone else suggested I open it, throw away anything personal (cards, letters, pictures, etc) that might be in it unopened, and donate the rest of the items if there are any. So I don't know if I should send it back when it gets here or just toss it in the trash? Because if I send it back, I can see him seeing it as "communication" that I love him but I'm also not going to text him and tell him that I threw it away if I do that because that is communication and I now know how he reads that. I also have some of his clothes that he left here and I don't know if I should ship them back to him (he hasn't asked for them back, though...) or just donate them to Goodwill. I'm kind of tempted to do the latter because I don't want any correspondence with him at all.
TL;DR How 2 deal w/ delusional manchild. Plz halp.
Which brings me to my current predicament(s). Today is my birthday (woo...) and some of our mutual friends have warned me that he told them he shipped me a gift (even though they told him repeatedly not to because it was definitely a bad idea). I have no idea what it is as it hasn't gotten here yet. And I have no idea what to do with it once it gets here... My mom suggested I send it back unopened, but I'm worried that by sending it back he might see it as "communication" of some sort (and thereby continue believing I have feelings for him). Someone else suggested I open it, throw away anything personal (cards, letters, pictures, etc) that might be in it unopened, and donate the rest of the items if there are any. So I don't know if I should send it back when it gets here or just toss it in the trash? Because if I send it back, I can see him seeing it as "communication" that I love him but I'm also not going to text him and tell him that I threw it away if I do that because that is communication and I now know how he reads that. I also have some of his clothes that he left here and I don't know if I should ship them back to him (he hasn't asked for them back, though...) or just donate them to Goodwill. I'm kind of tempted to do the latter because I don't want any correspondence with him at all.
TL;DR How 2 deal w/ delusional manchild. Plz halp.
I feel very depressed and I don't even know why. I have great friends, decent job that I like and a fun social life so I can't understand why I'm feeling so miserable. But every day I feel like I'm letting everyone down. It started when I first went to school, sometimes I could hide it and sometimes I can't.
I remember having to do to the doctors or surgery a lot of times and they couldn't diagnose me with anything. I attempted suicide at school so I can't tell mum or else it will put them through the same thing over again.
This time it's really getting worse. I've lost interest in everything I enjoyed and I go out shopping and do things in town to try and hide it. I don't think I can control my depression anymore.
I'm really scared to speak up or call for help because I find verbal communication really hard. And now there is a lot of phyiscal pain in the body. I don't want to get sectioned or lose anything. I can't concentrate or remember things propely.
I feel very depressed and I don't even know why. I have great friends, decent job that I like and a fun social life so I can't understand why I'm feeling so miserable. But every day I feel like I'm letting everyone down. It started when I first went to school, sometimes I could hide it and sometimes I can't.
I remember having to do to the doctors or surgery a lot of times and they couldn't diagnose me with anything. I attempted suicide at school so I can't tell mum or else it will put them through the same thing over again.
This time it's really getting worse. I've lost interest in everything I enjoyed and I go out shopping and do things in town to try and hide it. I don't think I can control my depression anymore.
I'm really scared to speak up or call for help because I find verbal communication really hard. And now there is a lot of phyiscal pain in the body. I don't want to get sectioned or lose anything. I can't concentrate or remember things propely.
I feel very depressed and I don't even know why. I have great friends, decent job that I like and a fun social life so I can't understand why I'm feeling so miserable. But every day I feel like I'm letting everyone down. It started when I first went to school, sometimes I could hide it and sometimes I can't.
I remember having to do to the doctors or surgery a lot of times and they couldn't diagnose me with anything. I attempted suicide at school so I can't tell mum or else it will put them through the same thing over again.
This time it's really getting worse. I've lost interest in everything I enjoyed and I go out shopping and do things in town to try and hide it. I don't think I can control my depression anymore.
I'm really scared to speak up or call for help because I find verbal communication really hard. And now there is a lot of phyiscal pain in the body. I don't want to get sectioned or lose anything. I can't concentrate or remember things propely.
Ok Archsage, I'll try to keep my eyes at face level! Now, in terms of body compliments, should I say you look hot, you look great or should I not say anything about their appearance. I don't want to come across as only doing this for the sex
Ok Archsage, I'll try to keep my eyes at face level! Now, in terms of body compliments, should I say you look hot, you look great or should I not say anything about their appearance. I don't want to come across as only doing this for the sex