U.N. Owen
In Brightest Day, In Blackest Night ...
Tiger parenting has existed since the time of great conquerors and still exist. My question to you is how do you view such a method?
If you want my stance, here it is: high standards and accountability are a good thing. No one is denying that, but there must be a limit. Always telling your child how much they stack against their friends, siblings, and other relatives is just diving into emotional abuse. Look, I know the importance of accomplishments, but leaving someone an emotional wreck just to reach a standard is the equivalent of selling a car to buy fuel.
There is one thing I've always been infuriated by how much some of these parents move goalposts just to get an end. A child gets an A, then the parents wish for the highest grade in class. The child does so, but the goalposts are moved to get the perfect 1600/36 on the SAT/ACT. The child reaches it and wash, rinse, and repeat until graduation.
If you want my stance, here it is: high standards and accountability are a good thing. No one is denying that, but there must be a limit. Always telling your child how much they stack against their friends, siblings, and other relatives is just diving into emotional abuse. Look, I know the importance of accomplishments, but leaving someone an emotional wreck just to reach a standard is the equivalent of selling a car to buy fuel.
There is one thing I've always been infuriated by how much some of these parents move goalposts just to get an end. A child gets an A, then the parents wish for the highest grade in class. The child does so, but the goalposts are moved to get the perfect 1600/36 on the SAT/ACT. The child reaches it and wash, rinse, and repeat until graduation.