I actually was planning on coming in here, guns a-blazin', to educate you. But I'm so tired of having the same arguments over and over again with people who do the textual equivalent of putting their hands over their ears and going "LA LA LA LA LA LA." People reacted negatively to you because you came in with the same talking points that other people have done, which means you didn't make them up yourself. They have been debunked. A couple of people in this thread, bless them, even debunked them for you.
I'm sorry that you don't like the word "feminism." It still means what it means. Frankly, I'm not too upset about the words "mankind," "chairman," or "freshman," even though, according to the logic you use in complaining about "feminism," I should be, because they do not include me. But I have grown up in a society which considers my half of the population to be a special interest group, so I guess I'm used to it.
Look, if you want to switch genders with me for awhile, go ahead. I've always wanted to be able to write my name in the snow. You'll probably like the multiple orgasms, but after a few weeks of having men yell things to you about your genitalia in the street (and then get upset when you don't acknowledge them), explain YOUR OWN PAPERS to you, touch you in public transit, denounce your ability to think mathematically, lowball your salary, and then deny that you face any problems, you'll probably get sick of it.
Also, I benefit from being reduced to my looks because I am moderately attractive. I admit that, but I don't like it. YMMV.