Misinformation overseas is typical...especially when it is the US.
The anime is specifically made as advertisement for children. The producers were very clear about this from the get-go. That is why the anime is designed to teach up-and-coming children about pokemon...be it Ash checking his Pokedex for every Magikarp, the commercial questions and so on. Ash will always be 10 because it is better to market the brand to children with -drum roll-.......CHILDREN!!!
Now...for anyone interested in what Pokemon REALLY is, you need to read the manga. It is hundreds of times better, deadlier, bloodier, violent, and sadistic than the anime. It also carries the typical characteristics of Japanese series (sexual inuendo, dark comedy, etc). Lance had his Dragonair do a Hyper Beam on Vermillion City destroying a good section of the city and killing hundreds of people and pokemon!!!
BTW Yes...Pokemon do die be it in predator-prey relations or simply because they are ordered to do so (Giovanni had his Cloyster kill two Magmars just to prove a point to himself).
Plus, the battles are FAR better and, yes...the trainers don't just give orders...they are part of the battle meaning they also get seriously hurt or even killed. By far, the best battle, making anything you might see in the anime lame, was Red beating Green in the Pokemon League Final after Red's Venusaur defeated Green's Charizard (yes...Red is that awesome).