Grass Guardian
Rags to Riches
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I don't understand why it is necessary for someone to anounce in a public forum that they are gay. As I see it, it's like going on TV and anouncing, "I like S&M!" Should I care that you like the same sex? If so why? Shouldn't I like you because you are a nice person with similar intrests? What does ones sexuality have to do with competing on say, American Idol?
I don't really see this as something that's too hard to understand. Many, if not, most gay people try to hide the fact that they're gay at first. Then when they finally "come out" it's relieving. They're being who they are despite what people think. It is different from a heterosexual publicly stating "I'm straight," because there is no risk of backlash. It is something that is encouraged in society. But to announce to being gay is to risk ridicule, harassment, and hate. But knowing all that and still feeling determined to let the world know who you are despite any backlash is, I think, something very noble and brave. Coming out and publicly stating it can encourage other "closet homosexuals" to do the same and stop hiding who they are.
Well I think this is when you should ask yourself, what is it you disagree with? You think it's perfectly fine and acceptable to say, "I respectfully disagree with homosexuality," yet how would you feel around someone who said, "I respectfully disagree with hanging out with black people." People cannot help the skin they are born with, yet they are discriminated against. Homosexuals are born gay and cannot help that and yet they are discriminated against. I ask what the difference is.Why, is it that if someone respectfully disagrees with homosexuality they are labeled Homophobes?
Is it wrong for a gay person to have a job where they can & will see undressed heterosexuals?
Absolutely not. Would it be wrong for a straight person to be in a job where they can and will see undressed homosexuals? If it is their profession then chances are they will treat it professionally as any straight person would. Seeing someone naked doesn't always have to mean anything sexual. Whether being a doctor or a sculptor they are seeing the human body as it is. Nothing more. Gay people are not attracted to every person they see just as I, a woman, am not attracted to every guy I meet.
Is it the same or different from a heterosexual man being the coach of say a womens volleyball team and walking into the shower while the ladies are undressed to give them a peptalk or information on when the bus is leaving? Is there a difference? I know I would be tempted and arroused if I was the volleyball coach I used for my example.
That's probably because you are not exposed to a locker room full of naked women everyday. If you were, chances are you would become desensitized to it in the same way that the camera guys that shoot pornography become desensitized. Then again, maybe not. Everyone is different. Some people can take that situation and see it in a professional light. I don't think I would have an issue walking through a locker room full of naked men. I'm a straight woman, but in that instance the men are just male bodies standing around. They have penises. Big deal.
Is getting creeped out by a gay come on any different than getting creeped out by an unatractive person (be it to heavy/ skinny et al).
There really is no need to get creeped out. If a gay man is coming onto you, just say "Look, I'm flattered, but I'm straight." Done. You're not being rude and you have let the guy know you are not interested. Chances are he'll look elsewhere. Now if he persists then yes it would be creepy and be considered harassment just as you would find it creepy to turn a girl down yet she still tries to slip love notes into your pocket and follows you home.