Ethan.
Resorting to adoption is just a very sorry state of affairs. Orphans obviously have just as much potential to become perfectly successful despite their early disadvantages, but orphanages around the world overflow with unwanted children, and to me that is far more heart breaking than the concept of abortion. In an ideal world, an unwanted child would be born and then given to a couple who actually want it, but adoption only works in theory, otherwise there wouldn’t be an incredible amount of unwanted children out there. Please don’t confuse my views with degrading the worth of life, although I do deeply believe that parenthood is a responsibility that should not be taken lightly, and should only be attempted with the best of intentions. I’m casting no aspersions on what these children may accomplish; it’s not the life I’m undervaluing, but the circumstances. Our world is suffering from over population, and we no longer have to all reproduce to carry on the species, so I say the act of creating life should only reach fruition if full responsibility and integrity is taken, since it should not be attempted half heartedly; human potential is so vital it deserves whatever it takes to see it realised. Obviously new parents will be unsure and learning as they go, but people should not be forced to commit to a child if they made a mistake and are not yet ready to deal with the consequences, and to give a child away is symbolic of the emotions involved, that of passing on that responsibility. But that act must not be underestimated since giving up a child for adoption must be an incredibly stressful and weigh heavily on the conscience, although to me adoption seems far crueller than abortion, not all children live happily ever, they spend years rotting away in a home specifically for unwanted children. Every orphan must one day face that reality, and tread through life with that cross to bear, knowing that their very own flesh and blood would rather toss them aside than love and raise them, that is an horrendous epiphany I’d wish on no one. That is a harsh truth they may learn to work through, but it lingers with them forever, so it would be fair enough if every unwanted child was adopted at birth, but since they’re not, abortion seems some how the rational option.
It’s not directly your fault, but you’ve taken the surge of unwanted children comment out of context, understandably so due to it being a reference to a current British culture and I’m unsure where you’re from. From personal observation, it’s pretty blatant that in this country there is a custom of certain kinds of people having far too many children and taking too little responsibility for their upbringing, the sort of kids who grow into a life of crime and at times gang association, or in other words, the root of anti social behaviour in this country. I’m not suggesting sterilisation or anything that extreme, just my cynical nature is shared by many who think if these yobs were aborted, we’d have a nicer, safer country. China’s one child law does infringe upon personal choice and desire, but it’s undeniable that if every parent thought more carefully about having children before doing so, our society would have fewer flaws. People should heed the saying, any fool with a dick can be a dad but it takes a man to be a father, but this is often cancelled out by the lack of fathers to the youth of today.
Common sense entitles any woman to an abortion, they are by no means obligated to explain or justify why they want to abort, because if they have decided they don’t wish to raise a child, their judgment should be respected since the individual knows the circumstances of their life far better than any do good, pro life bureaucracy could ever imagine. If a woman wishes to go through with an abortion, it should be available to anyone under any circumstances.
You mentioned couples waiting years for a white baby, what of all the non white children?
It’s not a question of who has the right to decide if life or death is the kinder fate, but mother is god in the eyes of a children, and accordingly she has this divine right over her body to create or destroy, she is the most important factor in all this, her will dictates if raising the child/ having an abortion/ giving it up for adoption is the best scenario for mother and child. Everyone else can merely speculate on what is most logical or what most adheres to a person’s set of morals, but ultimately we’re just spectators, the right of the mother must be paramount. Children born into unfortunate lifestyles may not wish for death, but a change in history, perhaps, but as I said, we’re not debating whether or not they should be aborted, it’s all in theory.
Most women who abort do so because it’s inconvenient, not their time to be taking on motherhood. It’s not necessarily down to medical reasons, they’ve asked themselves if they are ready, and if the answer is no, for whatever reason, it’s an intimate decision. Question is when do you consider an embryo a child? For the most part you could say it’s a child in the making and has potential for life, it’s not yet a person as we know it, just in a different state of being.
